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1 Corinthians 7- Get Married

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 1 Corinthians 7:1-4

As you read through the Epistles of Corinthians, it becomes very clear, the Church of Corinth had alot of sexual immorality issues. The Apostle Paul spends a great deal of time working through alot of their issues, and teachings on sanctification and avoiding immorality of the body. So Paul injects another idea into the Church to avoid fornication, get married!

It’s very clear from the beginning of the Bible, Marriage was Gods plan for humanity. In Adam it was revealed “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18) People were designed to have a companion, being a lone wolf is a difficult lifestyle, this is another reason God designed the Church, to be a spiritual family for one another

The Bible also makes it clear, any sex outside the covenant of marriage is immoral (Hebrews 13:4) and Jesus defined the covenant of marriage between One man and One woman (Matthew 19:4-5) So what’s a solution to sexual immorality, get married!

Think about all the issues the Church has had with sexual abuse, including Catholic priests, could alot of this been prevented if these guys would have just got married? Probably, if you read the Word of God instead of relying on the traditions of men, it will keep you on the narrow path of life

Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 1 Corinthians 7:5-7

Now is this the solution to everyone’s immorality issues? No, of course not, we need to become Born Again first to have a Holy marriage to begin with. Marriage is a covenant from God that can resolve alot of problems if the covenant is not broken. However its not the end all, be all for everyone. I think there is alot of wisdom in this teaching when applied correctly

As Paul says here “That Satan doesnt tempt you” When your alone and vulnerable, its much easier for you to fall into temptation. Not just the sexual aspect, but also having a partner to walk side by side with you, as the two become one flesh. Apply these teachings in a practical aspect, and it will benefit you on your long journey with Christ, Amen!

Mark 10 – Covenant of Marriage

And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. Mark 10:5-8

Often people will say Jesus didnt address homosexuality or same sex marriage, they must of forgot to read this Chapter. Here Jesus addresses the issue of divorce, while addressing he affirms the covenant of marriage established by God in the book of Genesis 2. God created us male and female, to marry, and whatever is bound by the covenant of marriage shouldnt be seperated. 

So how does this address homosexuality? Simple, any sex outside the covenant of marriage is immoral. What is the covenant of marriage, simply a man and a woman just as Jesus explained. This goes beyond homosexuality, any sex outside of marriage is a sin, period. 

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. Mark 10:9-12

Jesus teachings on divorce are not any softer, as the Bible tells us “God hates divorce” (Malachi 2:16) Now we know this is a very complex topic and there are alot of circumstances that can ruin a marriage, but God’s original design was for marriage to be a man and a woman to last forever

Now we live in a fallen world, due to sin, so living a perfect life is not attainable. However we should strive to live a life pleasing and honoring to God. In Matthew 5:32 Jesus says that you can get a divorce due to sexual immorality. So God is understanding that sometimes a covenant in marriage needs to be dissolved, but of course that wasn’t his original design, but due to the sinful nature of the world God made exceptions.

The Bible is clear, God made Man and Woman, there is no transgender or gender confusion, any confusion is caused by Satan. Biology and Science is pretty clear, they can identify the gender of a person before they leave the womb. God will not be mocked, serve him with all your heart, mind, and soul in Jesus name Amen!

Two Become One

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ Matthew 19:4

In the beginning God specifically created Adam and Eve for each other and his plan was for them to be together there entire lives and raise a family. Just the same with your spouse, God created you to be together, not just for a while but forever.  Once you took your vows you made a covenant with God.

and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? Matthew 19:5

When you’re married, Two become one Flesh, not two people living separate lives coexisting. Your marriage has united you under God, every choice or decision is not your own, but a group decision. This is why divorce doesn’t seem logical to God, if Two become one Flesh then how can they separate?

So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. Matthew 19:6

Why do people get divorced? Do they not understand the covenant they made under God? Do they not understand there spouse is a part of them and separation will be devastation? Marriage is a lifelong plan by God  its not for a season.

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33

Love your wife as you love yourself, this is a great lesson to learn and probably if applied could have saved countless marriages.  The reason marriages fail is when a spouse puts themselves first before the family. Love each other as Christ loves us and you will have a prosperous marriage as God intended.

I’m not judging or condemning anyone’s marriage,  my hope to see families stay united and marriages to live as God intended “Two become One” in Jesus Name Amen

Happy Anniversary

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 1 Corinthians 13:4

June  15th  marks the 10th  wedding anniversary for me and my wife, my best friend, my soulmate, and partner. We got married on the beach in Jamaica and it felt like we were truly standing under God in his paradise. Any nervousness was calmed by the soothing sounds of the ocean waves

Not many other scriptures define love as good as this one, love is sacrifice. Jesus showed us the ultimate display of love by laying down his life and not expecting anything in return. Love putting each other first and not focusing on our own selfish needs. These are great scriptures for all marriages.

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 1 Corinthians 13:5-6

Words are powerful, they can either bless someone or curse someone, it’s important as a couple your building and supporting each other rather than tearing each other down. Couples need to realize there partner is human and is going to make mistakes, it’s important to forgive one another and not condemn each other.

One of the reasons I love Heidi is she’s very supportive of me and treats me with love and respect.  Remember as a couple you are one, so when you put down your spouse, your putting down yourself.

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 1 Corinthians 13:11

As God said in Genesis when man and women get married “Two become One Flesh”, this is important to realize you and your spouse are one now under God.  You are no longer living for yourself, all your decisions not only impact your life but your spouse’s life also.

Me and Heidi are a great team, we make decisions together because ultimately all decisions effect the family. This is part of having a mature and healthy relationship; secrets are cracks in the foundation of marriage.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13

To have a successful marriage it must truly be built on love, but to build it on love we must first understand what love truly is. Love is everything describes in these scriptures kindness, patience, and sacrifice.

I’m proud to say our Marriage has been all of this and more.  I couldn’t have asked God for a better partner and soul mate, she is my crown from God.  And I pray everyone may read 1 Corinthians 13 and apply it to your marriages in Jesus Name Amen

Marriage Under God

The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: but the word of our God shall stand for ever. Isaiah 40:8

My wife recently showed me an article online that 3 men got married together http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2972542/They-look-like-new-boy-band-s-world-s-THREE-WAY-sex-marriage-Gay-Thai-men-tie-knot-fairytale-ceremony.html

It appears people have decided they will redefine the laws of marriage, even though God defined marriage back in the beginning of creation. When will the redefining end? What are the limitations?  Are humans going to marry animals? Humans marrying robots? Where is the purity of love really in all this?

(Genesis 2:24) “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

God clearly instructed us how a marriage should be between one man and one woman. The two become one flesh, which Jesus also taught (Matthew 19:5). How can you become one flesh with multiple partners? God has created a soul mate for each one of us, when you disobey God and follow your own ideas of love and marriage, you will never meet that soulmate that was designed for you.

(Ephesians 5:22-25) “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5 Paul talks about the Godly roles of marriage, these Godly roles cannot be fulfilled if the marriage is between the same sex or multiple partners. In a Godly marriage the man is to be the Godhead, or spiritual leader, which the wife follows. And the man should love his wife as Jesus loves us, which is Agape love.

These roles work successfully when there is Godly love and mutual respect between man and women, especially since the  “Two became one flesh”. When one abuses there role that’s where these roles will become broken and the marriage breaks down. Being the husband does not mean being a dictator but to live like Jesus and be a spiritual leader thru love, kindness, patience, meekness, and mercy.

(Leviticus 20:13) “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination:”

Same sex marriage will never work because it’s an abomination to God, this was never part of God’s original plan for us and he will never bless these marriages. We were created in the image of God to reproduce and raise Godly families. This naturally is impossible with same sex partners, the only purpose for their union is out of their own lusts towards one another.

The world might continue to change our Laws but the Word of God stands forever, and that is a true law for those who plan on living in his Kingdom. So while it may not be a popular choice to the masses, I stand with the Word of God and don’t support Same Sex marriage. I pray that they one day see God’s real purpose for them in life and experience true love thru Jesus Christ Amen.

Love is Sacrifice

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Ephesians 5:25
What does love mean to you? Have you ever been in love or in love now? Most people would say yes, but do you really know what love is? Do you love as Jesus loves us?
Jesus loved us unconditionally; he sacrificed himself to save us not knowing if we would even acknowledge him. This is true love to give of yourself without expecting anything in return.
Love is probably one of the most overused words in our society; people will say this on a daily basis but don’t even know what love entails.
I would bet most of us in this world love conditionally. When things are going good everyone is happy, but as soon as one partner has to sacrifice or give more than the other, then most people break up. This is why we live in a society with such a high divorce rate, majority of these people were never really in love to begin with. They were in lust with each other until the good times ended.
As it tells us in 1 Corinthians 13: 4Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;…
You can generate a theme after reading these scriptures, Love is Sacrifice! There’s a reason why a lot of parents will say “I never knew love until I had my children” it’s because of the sacrifices they committed because they loved there children
Most of us today when we think of love, we think selfishly. We think about the needs we want fulfilled rather than the needs we can fulfill to your spouse.
1 Peter 4:8” Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins”. Another reason love fails is because people have unreal expectations of their spouse to be perfect. As it says in this scripture thru love we learn to accept each other as “works in progress”.
So when therefor when you truly understand the meaning and responsibilities of love; we can have a loving and successful marriage.
By following Jesus and studying the Gospel, we can learn and understand what true love is in Jesus name Amen

Man of God

But you, Man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. 1 Timothy 6:11

 Recently I just finished reading the book “Man of God” by Dr. Charles Stanley. It’s a very inspirational book and I highly recommend it to anyone. It got me to reflect on myself and journey as a “Man of God”

What does it really mean or require to be a “Man of God”? I believe the qualities you would observe are integrity, accountability, compassion, courage, and humility.

The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them. Proverbs 11:3. To have integrity means to be blameless. Honest, and having strong morals. It’s important that your family and others can trust and respect you. Unless you have integrity this can’t be accomplished.

“So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God” Romans 14:12 To be Godly we must be accountable for our actions. When we make mistakes we confess them. We also need to accept our responsibilities as Christians, Spouses, and Parents.

Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. 1 Peter 3:8  Having compassion towards each other is essential. We all have faults and make mistakes, we need to be patient and kind. As it says in Proverbs 10:12 “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers all wrongs”

Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong. 1 Corinthians 16:13 Being a “Man of God” is going to take courage. When you refuse to conform to the ways of the world, you will receive a lot of opposition. That’s why you must grow “deep roots” of faith and always trust in God. Then you will be a strong role model for your family.

 “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6  Pride can become our worst enemy. It can make us harden our hearts and resist knowledge. This is why God opposes pride, it’s a act of selfishness and vanity.

As you can see being a “Man of God” is no easy task. And we probably don’t posses all these qualities yet. But thru our journey we should strive to obtain these traits.

Following Jesus and studying the Word of God are good blueprints we can build on. It’s important for our families and ourselves that we make the commitment to become “ Men of God: In Jesus name. Amen

Rules of Engagement

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, Ephesians 4:26
This scripture is great advice to live by; do we resolve our issues before we go to bed or do we go to bed angry?
What are the consequences of letting unresolved issues to linger? Do your problems begin to manifest and become greater than they are?
As it says in 1 Corinthians 13:4, 5 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,…
We are all going to have disagreements sometimes and even sometimes it’s healthy for a relationship, but we have to remember to be respectful, listen, and importantly resolve the issue before we go to bed.
A good rule to live by is from Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Letting unresolved issues to linger they can begin to grow into something bigger as said in Proverbs 17:14” Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.:”
Your initial disagreement can start just a little drip of water, but keep pressing the issue and it could be like a dam broke. Once the flood occurs it can be difficult to repair and restore things the way they were.
So be careful with your words and be kind and respectful to one another. Don’t allow your anger or disputes to carry over into tomorrow. For everyday is a new beginning and we should begin with a fresh start Amen